They stare more than you do. You just haven’t caught them yet. Besides, there’s nothing wrong with window shopping. Just don’t go inside the store and ask how much it costs. That’s how you get in trouble.
Coming on the heels of some awesome news, in which the so-called “Defense of Marriage” act has been declared unconstitutional, I thought I’d make some maps to remind everyone of where we’re standing right now in terms of marriage equality rights. You can click each of the maps to see a large-scale version.
States that issue marriage licenses to same-sex couples: CT (2008), D.C. (2010), IA (2009), MA (2004), NH (2010) and VT(2009).
States that recognize marriages by same-sex couples legally entered into in another jurisdiction: MD (2010) and NY (2008).
States with a statewide law providing the equivalent of state-level spousal rights to same-sex couples within the state: CA (domestic partnerships (DP), 1999, expanded in 2005), NV (DP, 2009), NJ (civil unions, 2007), OR (DP, 2008) and WA DP, 2007/2009).
States with statewide law providing some statewide spousal rights to same-sex couples within the state: CO (designated beneficiaries, 2009), HI (reciprocal beneficiaries, 1997), ME (2004), and WI (DP, 2009).
• California: Same-sex marriages that took place between June 16, 2008 and November 4, 2008 continue to be defined as marriages. On October 12, 2009, Gov. Schwarzenegger signed into law a bill that recognizes same sex marriages from out of state that occurred between the June to November 2008 time frame as marriages in California, and all other out of state same-sex marriages as domestic partnerships.
• Maine: Gov. John Baldacci signed marriage equality legislation May 6, 2009. However, the new law was repealed by a ballot measure in November 2009.
• Maryland does not have a registry but does provide certain benefits to statutorily defined domestic partners. Also, in Feb. 2010, the Maryland Attorney General issued an advisory opinion declaring that the state can recognize out of jurisdiction marriages.
• Rhode Island does not have a registry but does provide certain benefits to statutorily defined domestic partners. In Feb 2007, the Rhode Island Attorney General issued an advisory opinion declaring that the state can recognize out of jurisdiction marriages. However, in Dec. 2007the Rhode Island Supreme Court refused to grant a divorce to a same-sex couple legally married in Massachusetts.
It is legal in all 50 states to marry your second cousin.
Some caveats given by states in order to allow marrying your first-cousin, mostly based on the idea that it’s okay to be a gross incestuous person, as long as there’s no chance you’ll birth some ungodly monstrosity:
• One (or both) of you are adopted and you give proof (LA, MS, OR, WV) • You’ve done it elsewhere (IN, KS, LA, NE, OK, WA, WV, and WY honor it; AK and MI turn a blind eye) • If you’re old and/or infertile (IN: over 65 and infertile, WI over 55 for the female partner or at least one member of the couple is infertile, IL over 50 or one is infertile; AZ over 65 or one is infertile; UT over 65, or over 55 if one is infertile ) • It’s permitted by “aboriginal culture” (MN, applies mostly to the Dakota Sioux, Ojibwe and Chippewa tribes) •You submit to genetic counseling (ME) •Your parents weren’t cousins too (NC)